Sex Isn’t Dirty: Let’s Talk About Women’s Sexual Needs

Sex isn’t shameful. What’s shameful is a culture that treats women’s sexual needs as optional - or worse: unworthy of conversation.

For too long, society has framed sex for women as only about reproduction, or “punishment,” or duty. That narrative doesn’t serve you. Your pleasure, your desire, your women’s sexual needs? They’re valid. And they deserve to be seen, heard and honoured.

The Pleasure Gap Is Real - And It’s Systemic

The disparity between how often men and women orgasm in heterosexual sex - known as the orgasm gap - is backed by decades of research.

• Wikipedia: Orgasm Gap

• Science Alert: Only around 65% of heterosexual women orgasm regularly during sex.

• Springer Study: Clitoral stimulation greatly improves orgasm frequency.

• SPSP: Social norms and communication deeply impact sexual satisfaction.

This isn’t about “broken women.” It’s about a system that prioritizes male pleasure, ignores female anatomy, and treats women’s orgasms as optional.

What Women Actually Need - Pleasure Is Not a Bonus

To close the gap and reclaim sexual empowerment, what women need isn’t shame - it’s:

• Shame-free sex education that includes anatomy and arousal.

• Partners who care enough to ask, listen, and learn.

• Permission to explore, to say no, or to say HELL yes.

• Resources and support focused on women’s sexual needs and pleasure.

Pleasure isn’t optional - it’s your right.

Myths We’re Ditching Right Now

Myth	Reality
“Penetration alone equals orgasm.”	Clitoral stimulation is often more effective for women’s pleasure.
“If you don’t orgasm, something is wrong with you.”	It’s a systemic gap - not a flaw in your body.
“Asking for toys or foreplay is too much.”	It’s basic respect for women’s sexual needs.

Silence Is the Problem - Not Your Body

Ignoring women’s sexual needs has consequences. It fosters shame, miscommunication, and misinformation. When society goes silent, women internalize that their pleasure doesn’t matter. That silence must end.

Let’s Rewrite the Script

If you’ve felt unseen or unheard, know this: you’re not alone. And your needs aren’t too much - they’re fundamental.

• Start the conversation - with your body, your partner, your people.

• Demand better education - no more shame, no more silence.

• Share this blog - help us rewrite the narrative about women’s sexual needs.

Because sex isn’t dirty. Silence is. Your needs are a birthright.

— The PMS Log