Female Pleasure Isn’t a Luxury - It’s a Right

Let’s drop the act: pleasure isn’t a reward. It’s a right. So many women have been conditioned to treat pleasure like a luxury - something you only get if your partner’s happy, your chores are done, or your body fits a certain mold. But guess what? You deserve female pleasure just because you exist.

You deserve it even if you’re tired. Even if you didn’t check off every box today. Even if your body doesn’t match a single magazine cover. Female pleasure is not selfish. It’s self-honouring.

Why Female Pleasure Is Non-Negotiable

We’ve been raised to believe sex was for men. We weren’t taught about our bodies in school - or anywhere. We fear being called "easy," "selfish," or "too much." We’re made to feel like needing anything makes us needy. This stops here.

Here’s why female pleasure matters:

• Your body is built for it (hello, clitoris - thousands of nerve endings made only for joy!)

• Pleasure reduces stress, anxiety, and even menstrual pain.

• Feeling good helps you connect with yourself and others.

• Knowing what you enjoy makes sex safer, more empowered, and far more fulfilling.

Redefining Pleasure

Let’s redefine what pleasure even means. It doesn’t have to involve another person. It doesn’t have to lead to sex. Female pleasure can mean:

• That warm shower where you touch your body with care

• Dancing alone in your room like you own the world

• Exploring your fantasies without judgment

• Saying no to what drains you and yes to what fills you up

Pleasure Is Power: Globally and Personally

Across the world, movements around body autonomy, sexual health, and self-pleasure are growing. Women are done whispering. From India to Iceland, we’re taking the mic back - not just for sex, but for self. Because female pleasure in every culture and community is not an indulgence - it’s a right.

Permission Slip

You’re allowed to:

• Masturbate without guilt

• Initiate sex because you want to

• Use toys, explore kinks, and learn what turns you on

• Ask for more foreplay, slower pace, or anything that makes you feel good

And you’re allowed to say no to:

• Obligation sex

• Painful, rushed, or disconnected experiences

• Faking orgasms to soothe someone’s ego

• Shame from anyone who says you want "too much"

Because you don’t exist to make others comfortable. You exist to be fully alive in your own skin.

Today, do one thing that brings you pleasure. Just for you. No partner required. No apology necessary. Draw a bath. Touch your body. Say no to the meeting. Light the candle. Say the thing. Eat the dessert. Wear the red lipstick. Or do nothing at all and breathe. Because your body is not a machine, it’s a masterpiece. And it’s time you treated it that way. Female pleasure isn’t optional. It’s essential.

—The PMS Log

Citation 

• Sharma, M. & Khanna, A. (2021). "Female sexual orgasm in the Indian context." Indian Journal of Health, Sexuality & Culture, 7(2), 9‑16. Available at: https://ijhsc.info/index.php/ijhsc/article/view/163. Abhivant, N. & Sawant, N. S. (2013).

  
  

• "Sexual dysfunction in depressed Indian women attending a hospital outpatient department in Mumbai." Sri Lanka Journal of Psychiatry, 4(1), 10‑13. Available at: http://dx.doi.org/10.4038/sljpsyc.v4i1.5717.